I know this is a Fitness Blog but please bear with me.
Almost every single day I have at least 1 person at the gym (my workplace) ask me why or if I am single. (no exaggeration)
I usually get one of 2 reactions from the person(s) asking: 1. As if it’s a sin that I am 27 years old and single. And even more so are thrown aback that I have no plans to start a family anytime soon.
2. As if I am just being silly and saying it doesn’t bother me because I MUST secretly be sad.
So I decided after seeing several other friends post about being asked this question that I would address it.
Reason #1: I am single because I choose to be not because I am “unwanted” or because I have to be for “religious” purposes. I want to be single at this moment. If you haven’t read the book Lady in Waiting , I encourage you to. I want to learn
about me, I want to learn even more about Gods love for me and how to become an overflow of that love for others. I have so much to learn and so much romance to experience with the King that formed my innermost parts. He doesn’t force me to be single, I choose to be. I choose not to be reckless and careless with my heart anymore. I choose not to be in a vicious cycle of shame and regret.
And you know what? I find joy in this decision. I find JOY in being able to indulge time with kingdom female relationships, my family and time alone to myself. This choice is not a burden to me.
*Side note* if you don’t have healthy female relationships or you have an aversion to them then please message me. I would love to tell you about how the Lord changed my heart in this area. We are made to fellowship with women – there are too many blurred lines when we only surround ourselves with men.
“Dear Lady-in-Wanting, Love wants to find you.
Your miss-perceived view of love has put you in a place of regret and shame. Your need has not been met. You are not satisfied and your heart longs for more. Take heart, there is more.
There is a love that satisfies and does not leave you empty.
There is a love that notices you and calls you by name.
There is a love that longs for you and cries after you.
There is a love that gives to you what no one else can offer.
There is a love that pursues you – how long will you run from it?
There is a love that is everything you are looking for – everything and more.
Lady-in-Wanting, this love desires to make you into His Lady-in-Waiting. He desires to fill you and restore you and to show you what true love really is. No love is more pure and none greater.
This love paid the greatest price for you. He values you above all things. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13) You are precious to Him and he desires to show you who he is so that you will understand what love is. To know love, you must know Him because He is love.
Dear Lady-in-Wanting, pause. Take your eyes off what you see before you and open your heart to see deep in the eyes of the one who loves you. Beloved, come. Fall in my arms. There is no shame. There is no condemnation. There is wholeness. There is peace and life and understanding. Let my love enfold you and consume you. What you have been wanting, you have now received. Let me work in your heart. Dear lady-in-wanting, when you understand my love, you shall be my dear Lady-in-Waiting.
“I have loved you with an everlasting love…” (https://singleseasons.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/lady-in-wanting-to-a-lady-in-waiting/ )
Reason #2: Because I will only be single once. I want to enjoy this time. I LOVE my small group ladies, and watching their marriages teaches me much. One thing I have noticed is that several of them can’t come as often as they used to because now they are married and that night is reserved for time with their husband due to different work schedules (as it should be ). I will only be single once and I want this time with these ladies. I want this extra time with my family and friends children.
I was headed towards the altar once. I remember a pastor telling me during that relationship “Christine you will only be dating once don’t take for granted this season and rush into marriage, it is worth savoring” So I am savoring my season of being single.
Reason #3. Lastly, I am single due to the fact that I know I am not ready for the responsibility and work that comes with marriage. Joyful responsibility and loving work but nonetheless if I am not ready to look at marriage again then why would I date anyone?
So which are you, a Lady/Gentleman in Wanting or a Lady/Gentleman in Waiting?