This may be the least grammatically correct, or smoothly flowing post I have ever put up. But the words came tonight and I feel they are so important that it cannot wait.
I wrote something similar 1 year ago this past month called “Image Breakthrough”, but still this is different, this is more business minded aspect.
This is a phrase I have heard at least 135 times since April. And until today it went in one ear and out the other.
Do you ever hear someone talk about revelation and just sit there and look at them and think “Why did you need that revelation?” “I don’t know why something was wrong with you but I am good.” Only to realize that you aren’t good to go and that you are exactly where they were?
Yea. Well, that was me. I would think to myself “Self-limiting beliefs? I don’t have those, must have been a weak person or something, moving on.”. Then today it hit me.
I have been SEVERELY limiting myself. My career, my success, my influence, my friendships even my athletic ability.
Let me just go ahead and say, some of what I am about to say makes me cringe to admit. CRINGE, because who likes admitting they have been narrow minded and justifying it. But if it encourages even one person it is worth it. If it helps one person see past the huge block that is in their face than it is worth it.
About a month ago I was presented with a new business opportunity and I asked a colleague a question that I had never before said out loud; “What if I turn out only to be good at Anytime Fitness?”
Their first reply was an exasperated “OMG”, and their second was “I have seen you operate with Anytime Fitness. Remember when you started. Were you nervous? Were you scared maybe you couldn’t do it? You were fired a few months ago and now look how good you are at it. You’re great at it and I guarantee you kind of sucked at first. Worst case scenario you suck at it and you decide it’s not right for you and you just continue your pursuit in Anytime Fitness. I see a drive and determination in you that I don’t see in many people. I believe in you.”
Now when you are scared, and not admitting to yourself that you’re scared so you are making excuses to stay in your comfort zone that isn’t really the response you want to hear. But did I need it? Absolutely! Did it resonate in me that very moment? No. Absolutely not.
I didn’t realize it then, in fact I didn’t even realize it until today but I was living in a spirit of fear.
One of the verses my sweet daddy has always read to me time and time again is one the Lord so sweetly ingrained in his heart;
“For the Lord does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power love and a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
The Amplified bible puts it this way; “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but
When I was younger and bullied, one of the things I learned for self-survival was to not “put myself out there.” You know you can be out going and not be vulnerable. I think because I never overcame that and I never sought the Lord on it, that it followed me all my life even until now. I overcame parts of it after overcoming ED, such as when I started playing board games or sports with friends instead of always opting out.
What if I am not the best at something? What if someone else laughs at my failure?
This isn’t just in business mind you. It has limited me in EVERYTHING.
Trying Crossfit because crossfit is different than how I lift now. Getting my real estate license. Finding a job outside of Anytime Fitness. (Though I LOVE my brand, I should be open to other avenues.) It used to limit me on going to new gym locations.
I am GREAT at loving people, and sharing the road to health and wellness with them. I have a story, I have experience, and though I am still learning all the time from other Managers and Owners, I am great at it. But that’s where I let the buck stop. That is where limited myself. I didn’t want to try anything that made me the beginner. The newbie. So this colleague didn’t give up on me. Instead they had some of their colleagues invest into me. Pushing and pushing and pushing for me to step outside my comfort zone and take this business opportunity and tell others about it too.
If for no other reason I am learning to say yes to opportunity. Not just opportunity I am good at, or that is in my comfort zone but just opportunity in general.
If I am asking seeking and knocking, but only open to certain answers or opportunities…then am I really seeking or am I telling?
7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Matthew 7:7-8
Today is the day I have stopped ONLY hearing people talk about self-limiting belief, but today is the day I actively start leaving myself doubt behind.
I am a daughter of the King. I am Confident. I am Wise. I am loved. I am full of Joy. I am beautiful. I am a peacemaker. I am…I am seeking to be all that he has made me to be. I am asking for provision not just my way and my comfort zone provided.
How sweet is the Lord that he doesn’t push these lessons on us!? How sweet it is he that lovingly nudges us until we finally open our eyes.
(Oh, and by the way, 90% of the new colleagues are women who love the Lord. That’s not happenstance. That’s his gentle nudging.)
So even if it is not tonight or even this week, I hope this encourages you to look and see where you have limited yourself. I pray it plants a seed and that one day your eyes too are opened.